Be Sharp, don’t dull, no gawking, wise up, shine your eyes, ma goo, these are just a limited number out of the countless ways we are reminded not to be gentle these days.
There was a time when it was an ambition to be considered a gentleman or lady, these days, you brand someone a gentleman, and he is in a hurry to prove that you were wrong.
When Fela Kuti sang that “I no be gentleman at all” I am a hundred percent certain he didn’t mean that he was a ruffian or ungentlemanly. As a matter of fact, his demure, mannerism, acts, even his children showed he was a gentleman’s gentleman.
Have you heard people talk about his personal relationships? I am yet to hear of someone cheated or hurt by Fela. I can’t say the same about some Christians today.
We thought civilization has taken us forward, out of barbarism and savagery. In all its forms. Do you listen to music? Have you heard our comedians perform? Are you on Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat? I can’t believe we actually got around to this point, but the truth is we successfully brought savagery back in vogue.
Courtesy and decency has been thrown out the window, ladies will even scorn you for acting “too nice”. It’s like we are in a competition to see who can go the furthest in the opposite direction of gentleness.
Being a Bad guy, Alpha male, Bad bitch, Boss bitch or something of that mold might be the new cool, but when we consider that “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” We need to set our minds right.
I haven’t found someone who died of “gentleness” and I realized that there are still ladies who want a gentleman as their spouse. I am sticking with being a gentleman.
Mildness, sweetness, tenderness, kindness and being soft and considerate might cost me here and there on earth, but it does pave the way to heaven and make it just a lil bit smoother.
And for those who would say being harsh is second nature to them, after cutting off the ears of that servant at the Garden of Gethsemane, you never see Peter running around fighting people. We see David as a gentle shepherd boy; that’s how gentle Peter got before Jesus gave him the mandate to”Feed my lambs” and “feed my sheep”.

Wilson Joshua is a Video Editor, Content Creator and Creative Writer.
Follow him on Twitter and Instagram. @IJoswil