You have been taught by your environment to believe that you are static. You were made to believe that you are impervious to change.
Rather than accept criticism and correction, you put up a defense. You always have a reason and an excuse.
The most important lesson I have learned from this practice is that when we pray for others to change, sometimes, God changes them. Other times, he changes our ability to notice or bear it.
Then there are times heaven is more interested in something else.
As the underdog, you need to understand why people support you. Investors expect a return on investment. But at least, they have put their money, or time, or other resources where their mouth is.
It is like wanting to touch the fire because you don’t trust other’s account of how hot it is. Or trying to taste every food to know which is sweet and which is not.
At the end of the day, you would eventually learn your lessons, but how long will it take? More importantly, what would it cost you to learn?
Despite this, the trade is made. The debt is paid. The payment is collected. The effort is exerted and cannot be returned.
Life unlike the vendor has no cashback policy. Items sold cannot be returned, irrespective of conditions on delivery.
Why exactly must you bring woe on yourself just to avoid apologizing? And if offenses must come, must you be the offender?
Others are aspiring to be sources of blessings, while you are parading yourself about as an Offender-in-Chief.
Just as you need to be kind to others, forgive their past, and help them heal from childhood traumas, you need to do the same for yourself first.
It is after you have found the strength to pull yourself out of your past, then you can welcome others into your wholesome present.
Follow who know road, I ended up going far, except that I was heeded in the wrong direction. I had to retrace my steps to start all over again. Wasn’t I better off having never made the journey?
Stop choosing useless issues as the hill to die on. When people realize that you are that fellow that is always different just for being different sake, whatever respect and esteem they might hold you at would be eroded.
So when Nigerian UFC champion, Israel Adesanya calls himself Mr Alagidi, just remember, Alagidi ni ọga Alagbara.
Stock Taking means to go through ones wares, finding out what you have surplus of, enough of and what is lacking.