How come people only say everything happens for a reason when something bad, dare I say, devastating, has happened?
Why is that not their response to a piece of good news? Or don’t good things also happen for a reason?
Or is “everything happens for a reason” a cliche and tired consolatory phrase people use when they have nothing better to say?
If you have nothing good to say, why not just keep quiet? It is not compulsory for you to have a word, a response, or a quote for every occasion.
Sometimes, your presence is comforting enough. Your words are not needed. There is just no right word for some occasions.
There is a lot of wisdom in knowing when you are in such a situation.
Someone nursing an injury or mourning a loss is very sensitive. They might be blaming themselves or wishing they handled things differently.
When you say everything happens for a reason, some of them begin to look for that reason.
If they are not matured enough, or already have a sense of guilt, those words can reinforce that guilty feeling. They’ll start blaming themselves for what went wrong.
It is more dangerous when they internalize the guilt. If left alone, they can resort to self-harm as a way of punishing themselves for their perceived misjudgment, foolishness, or insensitivity.