Self-Destructive Behavior (Word For The Week)
Self-destructive behavior is any behavior that is harmful or potentially harmful towards the person who engages in it.
It is any behavior that is bound to harm you physically or mentally, intentionally or unintentionally.
The ease with which people damage their own reputation, disappoint potential clients, employees, or networks, then the scale at which they do this, it’s all baffling.
Watching someone who has repeatedly announced how desperate and ready they are for an opportunity, go on to sabotage themselves, is disturbing.
Someone puts in a good word for you, all you need to do was call or message them up to confirm an appointment, then you do it nonchalantly.
In your book, the self-adulation of the older generation is too much. You feel it is cool to call them by name. So you do just that.
Someone else secures an appointment for you, all you need to do was show up on schedule.
You wake up thirty minutes before your appointment, take all the time you wanted to prepare, showed up an hour late, and you are wondering why they are keeping you waiting.
This time, all the talks have been held. Prices have been agreed and all you need to do is to deliver.
You deliver three days late without an apology or explanation. Your item is substandard and woefully so. They make a complaint and before they complete the first sentence, you are talking about your no refund policy.
This has gone beyond engaging in self-destructive behavior. You are now in the territory of shooting yourself in the foot and sticking the bloody foot in your mouth.
You are burning bridges and taking others as collateral damages in the process.
Not only will people withdraw when your name comes up, those who use to stand for you would be reluctant to do so because you are costing them social capital.
Your self-destructive behavior is starting to cost others too.
If you find yourself repeatedly on the verge of success, but you keep missing out by a tiny bit, then it might be time for you to stop looking at external factors, and instead, look within.
The key to you getting to your next level might already be in your hands. Analyze yourself. Polish yourself. Present yourself to the world all over again.
You minus your self-destructive tendencies might be all the world is waiting for.