All Is Fair In Love And War
It is easy to claim that “I am in love”, just as it is easy to say “I hate him”. What isn’t easy is the responsibility that comes with love or war.
And Yes. Hate equals love. There is no way you’ll love someone and go to war with them. It is the person you dislike, hate, and can’t stand that you begin to plot how to “one-up”, conquer and decimate.
When the feeling of love is mutual, it is a beautiful thing. So also, when the feeling of hate is mutual, there are few things in this world that can be uglier.
All is fair in love and war means the scoreboard or the Geneva code is thrown out. With love, you don’t hold back. You don’t try to show less love than the other person is showing. You go out of your way to make them happy.
When that feeling isn’t mutual, the love being patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud, protective, trustful, hopeful and persevering. If all of those characters of love isn’t being reciprocated, then the relationship begins to crack.
So also, when the hatred is mutual, the envy, distrust, anger, malice and scorekeeping is two-way, then the recipe for disaster has been perfected.
With love, there should be no room for doubt or to wonder about who loves the other person more. With hatred, there is actually no room to wonder. There is no rule defining how far you should go in showing your love for someone you are in a loving relationship with, so also, don’t expect the person you hate to follow any rule of decorum in engaging with you.
All is fair in love and war, but you are better off engaging a competition about who loves the most, than trying to find out who hates the most. Stay safe. Stay wise.