And if I never heal from this heartbreak, will I ever get to love again?
Can love be built on pain?
What if I’m unable to connect with anyone?
Who would teach me to love again?
I have considered giving Tomi some money to go out on Sunday. Having Tomi around during our personal time is one Hannah won’t find comfortable.
If only her boyfriend was in Lagos. Maybe I should hook her up with one of these guys that have been disturbing me for her number.
A common complaint I have seen among my peers is a lack of connection.
Growing up, we were told that what was most important was what we know. As grown up, we have come to realize that who we know is probably just as important. In some cases, even more.
Tomi said she is happy to cook and enjoys doing it. According to her, the way to a man’s heart is through good meals, and she intends to practice with me until she gets married.
In truth, I am not against the bad guys. I also hold no grudge against those that love them. My beef is against those that have issues with the nice guy.
If the “bad guy” can proudly proclaim that he is a bad guy, why can’t the nice guy do the same?
Imagine a married couple that has no shared interest. That do not enjoy each other’s company. They always need a visitor to be around.
A couple that cannot spend an hour in discussion, because they will always run out of topics to talk about.
Did you propose and they turn you down? We buy rejected engagement rings. And if your proposal was accepted but the ring is too big or small, we buy that too.
The closer we got to Valentine, the more desperate guys got about getting a girlfriend. That was the only way to get an invite.
The girls in the class meanwhile knew they held all the aces. They were quite finicky about accepting any propositions.
There are people who are worth every bit of social capital expended on them. Even if they won’t repay you, they appreciate it and pay it forward to someone else.
Being more intentional about knowing your spouse will make your home happier. Forever is a long time, it is better spent in happiness than bitterness.
Knowledge will be a major difference-maker in addition to love. Everyone can claim to love your spouse, but no one should know them better than you do.
Our Research and Investigation Department has informed us that if we give you too many gifts, other ladies might see it and get interested in us. We want to remain faithful. We don’t want other ladies to come and tempt us. In our opinion, prevention is better than cure.
I pray you get to experience groundbreaking, life-changing, empowering, emboldening love. The kind of love that makes the day brighter and colors pop extra. That makes you understand the lyrics to your favorite songs.
I have seen men that are tough, authoritative, unquestionable, fierce, whatever else adjective you want to qualify them with. Yet, whenever their wives or kids come around, you see a different side of them.
In that moment, they are approachable, calmer, and friendlier. You might even be able to get a smile from them.
When they ask you, why do you trust him this much?
Are there no better men out there?
Is he down for the long haul as you are?
I want you to tell them, “all the feelings I’ve got for him, he’s got it twice and over for me.”
“The essence of life manifests better when love is found.”
This is to love. May we find it. May the one we find it in, find it in us. And when it ends in heartbreak or death, may it all be worth it.
On the first day of February, we got into class to meet a massive bouquet of flowers on Valentina’s table. All the girls quickly gathered around her, discussing who the sender might be.
For a better part of my life, if you ask me what the meaning of love is, I had no answer. This is despite the fact that I have been taught all my life to love my neighbor as myself.
It is like everyone was too busy teaching me who to love, that no one remembered to teach me what it means to love.
Life without you is difficult. Unbearable. And I don’t want to get over you. I am struggling get used to be alone. Honestly, I don’t want to get used to life without you.
If I get used to it, there might be no coming back.
Why exactly must you bring woe on yourself just to avoid apologizing? And if offenses must come, must you be the offender?
Others are aspiring to be sources of blessings, while you are parading yourself about as an Offender-in-Chief.
One of the major issues with people and their baggages is that we often notice people’s baggage before we notice the people themselves. This influences how we presume and prejudge them.
As much as I know Tomi and I would be targeted for their gossip, they were the ones I pitied more. Tomi is not one to take bottom-barrel behavior lying low.
I helped Tomi in moving the rest of the load to the car, and finally, we said goodbye to her former home.
With all I hold dear, I hope this experiment does not blow up in our faces.
So after God-fearing and ashewo vibes, what else do you want in a spouse? From what I heard, the sex is one of the first things you will get tired of.
What next?
At what point do you start wishing you had never met someone? Or better yet, to just unknow them?
The friend that is never happy for you, in a hurry to minimize your achievements, that sees nothing you do as worthy of celebration.
From 2021 and beyond, may our peak period, our productive days, and our best years not be wasted away through no fault of ours.
I pray we find teammates that will bring out the best in us, spur us on to excellence, and may we be that teammate to others too.
“See, remember all I have told you. I won’t accept any baby if the father has not paid your bride price.”
“That is why there is condom” Tomi’s dad interjected.
The inquisitive part of me can’t help but wonder, did the wives start calling their husbands Daddy, because he called her Mummy, or did the husbands start calling their wives Mummy because she started calling him Daddy?
The time has come for our women to be more imaginative. If you refuse to do it peaceably now, then wait until we become the government.
Sales of singlet and boxers will be banned immediately after Christmas, and only resume after Valentine’s day.
Another crazy thing about heartbreak is that even if you can see it from a mile away, it doesn’t hurt any less.
Both times I’ve experienced heartbreak, I had envisaged it, but that doesn’t ease the impact. As a matter of fact, it hurt more.
Every December, you threaten to cut people off. Every January, you announce you have done it. How come by the next December there are always more people awaiting your blade or cutlass?